August 25, 2005
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THE BROOM
Okay, so I come home from work and mom is in the kitchen. We never leave her alone too long because we just can’t. I know the Parkinsons Disease and the medication have messed her mind up. But this is the same woman that raised me and cleaning was never really her “forte” not that it matters…but this incident really can’t be blamed on the disease…she just doesn’t think when it comes to these things…well…the guinea pigs litter is made of dried corn because of Tere’s allergies I can’t use much else, wood chips and hay make her sneeze. So this corn, well they shoot it out of the cage when they run and play and it hurts like the dickens when you step on it and my mom, just like me, dislikes shoes. It is also much easier for her to walk barefoot with the Parkinsons. So she decides to sweep. Being of a lazier nature she doesn’t want to look, say in a closet or in any other place that a broom would be readily available. She does spot, however, the “outside” broom. A large green industrial broom that is extremely heavy. She somehow manages to carry the sucker into the house. Now not many days before that I had used it to deter a flood from over filling the hot tub…another story for another day…anyway…she decides to sweep the corn litter with this broom which was drying in the sun and still had a lot of dried mud in it. Now the first and most important factor here is that the broom is enormous and mom is not. She also is ill, she could very well have tripped over the top of the broom and hurt herself terribly. She was not in any conditon to push and direct this thing about. So one can only imagine the way she must have looked trying to sweep with it. Anyway, she managed to shove all the corn, along with a ton of dried mud in every nook and cranny in the house along with a shit load of it in the door jam. I come home from work. I was surprised, I didn’t flip I tried to talk to her. She of course responded with how I should be thankful she tried to help and stop complaining. I explained that no matter how tired and angry I was over the mess that she created when she tried to help, that will eventually be cleaned up. I was more upset over her jeopardizing her well being. She just don’t WANT to get it. She kept starring at the tv like I wasn’t there. I dragged my sorry and tired ass into the kitchen and cleaned some of it. It is now day three and most of it is gone, I keep finding different areas in the living room, under furniture, under everything little pieces of dried mud. Why does this piss me off. I should be used to it by now, her antics. I tell her again about how she could have cracked her head open and she says maybe I want that to happen since I keep mentioning it. I get so pissed I start yelling, sure, thatz it you pitty monger, I want you to fall and crack your head open so I can find you like that when I come home from work, maybe I’ll dump you behind the shed and be done with it. I don’t mean that. I really don’t. But when I try to tell her I am worried about her hurting herself she gets nasty. When I say this she perks up. Since I was a child, well before she was ill, she loved a good fight…or to hear about a good fight. Another day, another lump of dirt….huggs…Sassy
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I liked your close another day another lump of dirt. Reminds me of Shawshank Redemption where the guy empties dirt from his pantlegs by shaking them in the prison yard from the hole he’s digging with a tiny spoon. Actually, it could be the title to a book. Another day…another lump of dirt. It’s got me thinking. Your mom reminds me of my grandmother who’s got cancer. She says things like that pissing us off, too. More lumps of dirt to be found, I’m sure, for both of us.
part of it is frustration on her part….I remeber my mom & her dad haveing arguments about him paying room & board to stay with us when he was dying of cancer….he wanted to …and she wouldn’t take it….thing is…it was all about pride and control…..his part of his life he had no control over and he wanted to at least a little control…..
Awwww…. it’s hard when we aren’t on the same page as someone else about something like this…especially when it’s with a sick loved one
Difficult times for you and your family. There is no solution to it. Sorry for all of you. Sending love
Its very trying with her, I Know and see the stress you must endure, she eggs you on A LOT! she talks under her breath, she says the things that she knows will push you over the edge , then will do the stupidest things to annoy you and everyone else…HELL she actually BELIEVES that we all stand in that little hallway so she can be heard as she talks …I know its trying for you and I am always here to listen and take some of your stress. She is a pitty monger, that is for sure. Sometimes there is just nothing funny about the things she does or say and then there are times when you Must laugh because we might choke her or just cry. Either way I am besides you always.{{{}}} Love you
Silky
How frustrating!
You should be patting yourself on the back for not dumping her behind the shed…hehehe…
You’ve certainly got the lion’s share of this, Sassy. Makes you wonder what the heck you were thinking, when you signed up for this challenge, huh??
I know there have been times I’ve wanted to grab my Higher Self and give her a good shake…!
Know your efforts are being noticed, Hon…and don’t sweat it, when your patience cracks…
I love you…GFW
This sounds sooo hard to do…
To see her like this {{{Hugs}}}