May 15, 2006
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Letting go…is it a necessity to grow…do we really let go…are the memories stored for us to peek at and when we are ready learn the lesson…are they kept in our heart as a reminder of warm feelings…cold feelings…hard feelings…loving feelings…letting go…I am not sure it is necessary…maybe I’m not ready to let go…maybe I am Peter Pan and will never grow…or maybe it is important for me not to let go so I can grow…life’s lessons are sometimes painful…but they say in the pain is a lesson…the word painful has in inside of it…maybe because we are supposed to keep the pain inside of us and learn and grow and not let go…being humble is hard…learning the difference between a “reasonable expectation” and a “realistic expectation” has been a difficult lesson for me…yet I grow…or do I…huggs…Sassy
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I’m sorry- I didn’t realize I deleted you from my subscriptions list. Thanks for the comment. I’m so glad to hear you are growing through Reiki. This will keep your words to your body more powerful than the physician’s words while prognosticating and diagnosing. Blessings abound
Pain is part of life, the others side is joy.They need each other. Grow, change is also part of life.
Simon thanks you too.
I donno what to write.
Thank you hitting the map!
Sometimes letting go is a necessity for moving on the the next level of learning.
I think , Sassy , trials of life bring to us a kind of wisdom but too many trials may make us sink . And especially it is diificult for someone who has a perfect health to speak about that . You have experienced so you can speak . I hope all is well for you Sassy .
LOve
Michel
Letting go and moving forward is a very difficult thing to do. Having been abused as a child, I held a lot of bitterness, anger and resentment towards my step-father for that. I held it in for years, and it grew and I lashed out and judged others based on “my” fears and past experiences. I hurt, so I wanted to hurt others..After searching my soul, and through a lot of reading, suggestions, and such – I learned to let go, and to allow myself to clean out the dirt from my heart and soul. It was not easy, I cried a lot of tears, and let out a lot of anger…but after – I can say it’s like a whole new beginning. It’s like having a death – a part of you dies – and then a re-birth – a new you – the true you that you were meant to be merges forth. So hard to put into words, but it felt so good and was such a release and I have felt so much better since. It’s been about 7 years since I let go. I’ve moved on. He no longer controls my life, nor my actions, because of me holding onto that fear and anger. By letting go – I took the controls of my life, and am leading a much happier one..
Letting go is not forgetting about a situation, or a fear. The only example I can think of is this: If your child is in the kitchen, and reaches up to a hot burner on the stove. It burns him. He cries, and hurts. He may get angry. After a while, he lets go (figuratively) of the anger, the shock, etc. He no longer hurts (if its a small burn anyway). He does not hold onto the anger towards the stove, or towards the pain. But – he remembers, and he learns from it – “not” to touch the stove burner when it is on. Does that help?
I learned to safe-guard my body because it is a sacred thing. I don’t give freely of myself (sexually), nor do I share my body with just anyone. I am careful who I am alone with, and whom I confide in. Why? My past experience of abuse, it taught me to be careful, and respectful of my body. Also, it taught me to be respectful of others’ personal space, and to always be respectful of others bodies. Because I know first hand, how it feels to have that respect ignored and misused.
Blessings, ~Helena (glad to see you back!)
I hope you are cancer free as I am not sure where you ended up with that after your last post. Perhaps I am missing something but I too know the fear of cancer recurring and how hard it is to ignore the distraction of it all. Be well and Cheers.
Letting go ………….easier said than done, what a relief when your burden is no longer a “burden”, but aquired wisdom.
RITA
I want to fly away to never land…
I don’t think we ever truly let go…I think that we just have trouble remembering…
Letting go is complex. There are 12-step programs about it even. This morning I was reading about letting go as a parent. I read: “I let myself be who I am and my children be who they are.” This is hard because sometimes it seems like they are struggling so with life’s challenges and no parent wants to see their child of any age suffer. And yet, how can they become adults and parents themselves if they are not allowed to learn by their own growth. Hard stuff. Be easy on yourself.
Interesting. If letting go were easy everyone would have mastery over life. The effort needed separates the wanna be from the gonna be. I reckon it’s like a snake shedding it’s skin. When the times comes we get all itchy and start to seaparte new self from our old self and its baggage.
always great to hear from you, hope all is well in your world…?
thankx for the props on Monday…
Ronny
I have let go of things that were bitter and heartbreaking the memory stays but not the bitterness or heartbreak, Judi
The letting go is so much easier if you have a place to go to. I never had a plan it just happened…and I am actually alive and happy….not something I expected 25 years ago
I feel like Peter Pan! Good to know that there are others out there who appreciate life as well!
Well, I’m the wrong person to ask about letting go. I have an unknown need to hold onto things forever and ever. I have never learned the concept of letting go. It’s a foreign subject to me.
I think it’s okay to let go of the pain…just not the lesson. Our bodies will remember the pain, anyway, so it’s okay to free your mind of it.
I know what you’re trying to let go, Sassy…and I wish you strength. Just know that once you’ve let go and made room for more in your life, more will come.
I love you…GFW
Hey there, Sorry It took so long to visit your site. Havent been by any sites;( You have mentioned “reasonable expectation” and a “realistic expectation” to me and I have learned a great deal from that…I guess when we are ready to let go , the lesson will be told…I also have a hard time letting things roll off my shoulder…But I still try;)) I dont ever want to grow up…But we do Heheheh
{{{}}} Silky