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Name: Sassy Birthday: 11/11/1954 Gender: Female
Interests: Reiki, Past Life Regression, writing short stories and poetry, reading, cooking, yoga, walks, I want to learn to "sign". Expertise: I am not an expert in any thing, but I do know what I like: I like being a mom, children, animals and laughter, good health, music and dancing, long walks on the beach, the ocean, camping in the mountains, stars, thunder storms, rain in my face and meditating. I believe the best riches in life are the love and acceptance of ourselves and those we love. Occupation: Other Industry: Other
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| In Memory of Nacho November 1, 1996 to September 1, 2009 Our family has lost our little Nacho. He passed over yesterday morning, September 1, 2009 just two months short of his 13th birthday. I don’t’ want to write about his death. I want to write about his life. From the moment he came to us he brought us smiles. As a puppy he breathed new life into Taku, our grown dog. Taku fell head over heels madly in love with him and decided he was her Christmas gift actually smiling and her tail wagged so and she immediately adopted him as her own and carried him in her mouth and helped me train him to “go” outside. She lived a long 16 years. For a large dog, that is incredible. She was not well and I believe that her love for her little guy helped her to live longer. Nacho was named for the triangle shape on his butt. Tere felt it looked like a Nacho so that was what we called him. He was our baby. Just to give you a few examples of how gentle he was, when I would bring him for his three month blood work to check his levels (he suffered from Cushing Disease) the vet would let the assistants practice taking blood from him because he would simple lick their hand even though it was uncomfortable for him. During the day he would lay in a ray of sunshine in the living room and Tere would take out the guinea pigs that would crawl all over him and he simple would watch and never hurt them or move quickly to frighten them even when the little pigs were teething and nibbled on his floppy beagle ears. He would let Tere’s pet turtles walk across his paws. Outside he would share the stale bread with the ducks (Henry and Henrietta that visit annually every spring before we open the pool on the way home from the south) and he would lie on the deck and watch the squirrels eat the peanuts never attempting to disturb their breakfast.
He had such a sense of humor and he knew it and knew just how to be the “on stage comedian”. He would make us laugh by coming up on the upper deck while we swam and using the pool as the biggest water dish in the world. He would bay the entire time we walked him with his beagle bay. The sound warmed my heart. He decided he was the rinse cycle on any bits of food left on the dirty dishes and actually climb up on the dishwasher door and lick them until he got caught and told to get down and he would do it every day of his life. I remember once coming home and he was so excited running back and forth to show me his great hunting discovery. He had figured out how to open up the snack cabinet and helped himself to a very large container of cheese balls which he totally consumed and was showing me the remaining crumbs as if he had discovered gold on his daily hunt. At one of Tere’s birthday parties she had a bunch of kids over for a swim party and he discovered the pizza pies. When the kids were playing he helped himself to an entire pie. He had consumed 7 slices before Bill discovered him and played tug of war with the 8th and Bill lost the tug. Nacho won the war and ate the 8th piece. He moaned all night with an engorged belly. Poor baby. We called the vet and asked what to do. He said I should just count my blessings it wasn’t a sausage pie. Once during a barbecue, Bill had made hotdogs. Nacho got up on his tiny little legs and took four at once hanging out of his jowls like hotdog fangs and running across the lawn so as to be able to eat them. He ate them. While he was so very gentle and loved us all so unconditionally, his one great love was food you can see. When company would come he would meander over to sniff and get petted and when they would be leaving he would cry and bay at the door begging them to stay a bit longer, as if to say “don’t leave I’ll miss you”. Whether it was a friend, the pizza guy even the water man.
After the discovery of his Cushing and realizing he was making so many steroids and having hi put on meds he did loose some weight. He was a little muffin butt. I say that because his butt looked like the top of a muffin, no joking, it really did. Well at night he was allowed a little more treats when he lost the weight. Every night I would do my little “cheat” a few oreos and milk, my secret cheat and pour him in a tiny little blue bowl some cold milk and give him a vanilla wafer or a biscuit and we would have “cookies and milk” together. I will miss that more than I can explain. His smiling eyes and his little freckled beagle legs that were so short and yet so strong and muscled. I will miss his little nose and his jowls and his snoring and his running in his sleep when he dreams of probably hot dogs in the back yard. I will miss him always.
His life was too short. We wanted him to stay and he tried, he really tried to stay. His little body just couldn't’t do it anymore. His heart said one thing but his time was spent. I know in my heart that he followed the light across that rainbow bridge and Taku was waiting for him. I can see him in my mind’s eye rolling in the grass and playing and asking Taku, when’s dinner. I miss you dear Nacho…I am aching for you…I will see you again someday…be happy…I guess since you always were, I should just say…be Nacho…I love you…mommy 
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| Just another Day With Mom – Good Grief She is Driving Me Batty: So she got a slight fever and was very tired. This passed in two days and she was better yet still sleepy. This was my four day stint – Thursday, Friday Saturday Sunday with her solid. On Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday during work the Aid Vivian comes but only until I’m back home from work and then she is all mine again…ukk ... well over the next two weeks she was tired I was told but she didn’t’ have a fever and I spoke to the doctor and he saw her and she was okay , we couldn’t figure it out and we decided to schedule blood work…then it hit me…the aide had taken another job in the evening hours where her sole job is too watch this old guy sleep and help him go to the bathroom if needed, she lays in a cot next to him and sleeps and watches tv all night. Well, mom was sleeping and sleeping and at night she was so weak she was trying to get up not sleeping but falling out of bed EVERY NIGHT…on the floor and not making it to the commode and an accident…the smack in the side of the head, the one that hit me came then…she isn’t doing PT anymore – we do it every day and over my days she was pushing through it like when she started and every day Vivian told me she was too tired to do it…then I finally realized what was happening – it was like an baby that has its’ hours mixed up sleeps all day and up all night – only she was getting weaker and weaker – I was so sleep deprived I have to admit I was not pleasant at all to either my mom and especially that good for nothing aide – I sat her down and told her I do not want mom sleeping more than forty-five minutes a day – I want her to do her PT and I want her to walk her walk up and down the street every day weather permitting – I want you to keep her awake – she tells me she can’t force her – she will loose her job – I tell her that forcing someone to do something that is physical and will hurt her is one thing, waking her up and persuading her is another – this was a Thursday – she says my mom is too hard – I tell her to re-evaluate her job and maybe she should find a different one because this isn’t about what she can and can’t do – it is about my mother’s health – her ability to continue to walk and do for herself and she should let me know by Tuesday her decision – that weekend I was like a tape recorder all day for two solid days – wake up wake up every ten minutes she was exhausted – PT was worthless but that second night she slept like a baby through the night – next day PT was easier – the aide called in sick that Tuesday and Wednesday so by the next Thursday when she came it was a solid week alone with her and I was going nuts and felt like I was in jail but mom was sleeping through the night and getting up occasionally to use the commode if needed – doing her PT with a vengeance first thing in the morning so she could see The Guiding Light at 10 am then doing her walk outside and walking up and down the hall twice every hour – picking up her coins for dexterity – this helping her feed herself easier – everything – brushing her teeth and yes – sleeping at night and she stills needs to be monitored but is alot more self sufficient with eyes on her - and me – I was snoring like a baby with the intercom on and am very proud of her and myself for doing what we had to do…Vivian is a bit perturbed and I have put in a request for a replacement – this will take awhile since mom is state funded and we are at the end of the list here – so she uses a walker for about a year now but I have her cane – I always put her cane under the bed and lay cloth pads down in case she falls and place a plastic bench near her and tell her to use the cane and bang on the bench if she needs me – the intercom is on the wall and her voice is soft because the Parkinson’s has affected her vocal cords – she sings every day to make them stronger and that is incredible that when she does you hear her – well…last night I don’t’ here her banging with the cane on the bench like she fell but I hear scuffling and heavy breathing and I am concerned – it is like 4:15 – I come down the stairs to the first level where she sleeps and there she is on the floor – she says she is trying to reach her clean underwear – I help her up – she has none on – where are your panties – she wears depends – they are in the garbage says she – she slid off the bed – so I see now what is happening – she is too lazy to go to the commode so she sits on the end of the bed and slides off and now is stripping and changing on the pads on the floor making them soiled and then she is too lazy to get up again so she is using the cane as a fishing pole to reach the cleans pairs I have left on a tray next to the commode – I help her and help her in bed and I am furious and take the soiled laundry to the washer and start the load and go back to bed and the next day – today I try and explain to her she needs to go to the commode and call me if she needs help and the cane isn’t a fishing pole and blahblahblah and she smiles and says – shhh - my story is on …ratatatata…shit…….God knows what the lesson is I am learning here – but it is a hard one…back to work tomorrow – I love going to work – I know you think that is odd – but I get out of the house and don’t have to worry – unless that lazy aid is letting her sleep again….hhhmmm…no time to visit – miss everyone – I will visit soon – many huggs to all of you...Sassy | | |
| So sorry I haven't found the time to post - thinking of all of you - been extremely tied up with mom then work - hugs to all...Sassy | | |
| What I find is that I don't care so much about how I am perceived from the outside as much as I do from my inside. I guess with age comes wisdom. It is easy to say as long as I feel I am a good person, it doesn't matter what others think, only what I think. But it took me years to live that. At first it was a step in understanding the statement, then it was a step in wanting to live it and then it was forgotten and then a realization that I am living it and it really doesn't mater how I am perceived from the outside. I see me as I see me and I try hard to please me. When I do things for myself, my family, my coworkers, I truly am doing it for the feelings I get from within, not the recognition from without. I hear of a place in heaven for taking care of mom. Though the intention of the remark coming toward me is heartfelt, that person doesn't know this. Is this supposed to give me a reason to continue. Have they sent a note to heaven as a point a head of me. I think not. I take care of mom, simply because she is my mom and it is what I feel inside me I should do. I am not always nice. I am very human and sometimes run out of patients with her. I know she is stiff from the Parkinson's, but at 54 my shoulders are not what they used to be. I am sore. I can say outside and inside that the sisters have to lay their head down at night and do what they feel they must for her which is nothing or sometimes very close to nothing...but I too am human...am I a bit jealous they have the ability to say this is my life and I want to live it...yes...but she is my mom...I want them to please give me one weekend a month...that is two days of their lives every month. It would afford them the privilege of spending time with a woman that loved and raised them. It would afford her the opportunity of spending time with the families of those she loves very much and it would afford me the time to work on my own life or not work on it...to rest and sleep and heal my aching bones...it would...but it won't they won't I would love every other weekend...I would...but they won't and on weekends like memorial day when it is more than difficult just to take her for an outing, which I do...I would love to run barefoot on the beach like them...to get up in the morning and have nothing more to do but to sit in the sunshine with a cup of coffee and read a magazine...then the guilt seeps in...I love her...she does well as she can...she asks not for much...a roof, food, a tender heart and a place to call home...with loved ones...we afford her this...but she had three, not just me.....I care not what others think of me...I care of what I think of me...yet...I have the human error of judging others..them...that doesn't seem fair of me...they are probably very pleased as to who they are on their insides too...rotted tomatoes...sorry...couldn't help it...lol...hugs, Sassy | | |
| I've been away so long and I really have no excuse. I have had many changes in my job and my home life that I have had to come to terms with and I have found myself wanting to just be by me and think things out and react in a way I need to to survive. I have done this and am doing this and feel it is doing a world of good. Life is funny...When you think things couldn't get worse you ended up wishing they were as bad as they were when you were complaining and not the next platueau. Then you stabilize and get used to things again...you get used to things and you just handle them because you have to. Then I realized I am growing up when I didn't expect others to react in what I would consider reasonable behavior. I just knew that it was not realistic. I feel no anger there anymore. A little temporary sadness but then it passes and I think of me and what I need...what I must focus on...learning not to judge just knowing from way deep inside when someone is an idiot and I can't change it. LMAO...that is okay...I like the me I be... | | |
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